Positive Energy-#InspireAFragrance

Fragrance in the life style  

"The beauty of fragrance is that it speaks to your heart…and hopefully someone else’s." (Elizabeth Taylor)

Fragrance is playing an important role in our life style. And it entered into our life very quietly. This output came through the western concept. The scented license we are using for our religious purposes is now using at our home.

It is indicated by Science and Art both that fragrance is an important part of our life. It excites and soothes our senses and makes changes in our behavior. Researches prove that those who are using the perfume are more positive in their attitude than those who don’t and they socially more active. Fragrance inspires every person and motivate in a positive way.

Fragrance was discovered at the time of King Luis the XV. Some oil was extracted from some fragrance plants and was used as perfume. Queen Cleopatra used Rose petals to scent the water while bathing.

Every fragrance directly affected the human brain, emotion and behavior. Stress, hormonal changes, diet and mediation also affect the smell of perfume. Whenever you smell any perfume your heart is filled with some refreshing happiness and you feel a positive energy. Try it once…You will feel good.

It is my turn to express something about fragrance. Whenever I dive into my past so many bubbles of my memories merge out in my present. One fragrance always inspired me and till now too. I was and I am very fond of morning walk. While walking along the road side, I came across to very beautiful small duplexes and one tree was present in front of every home. The tress was Night Blooming Jasmine. Whenever I went for morning walk, I found a bed of small white flowers underneath of each tree. And the fragrance …that spreaded …OMG...! was so mesmerizing, that I can’t explain in words. I always stayed near to that bed for some moments and took 2-3 deep breaths to let that fragrance dwell in my mind and soul. I wanted this fragrance to be a permanent resident of my heart. What else I say about this fragrance…??

Night Blooming Jasmine(Raat Rani) 

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That I write a post to #InspireAFragrance for Godrej aer.(http://www.godrejaer.com/)

(all images and quote from Google.com)................................................Veena Sethi

“Jinki Condition Serious Hai”, ! Five Stars contest

A Memory Of childhood

“Jinki Condition Serious Hai”, Wow…! Five Stars chooses very unusual topic for the contest. Splendid…, thought provoking…! Isn’t it…??

It is really very interesting topic and when I got the mail from IndiBlogger.com, I started thinking on this topic and when I went into the arms of sleep, I didn't know. And imagine what…?? The topic was present in my dream too. Human faces with different type of facial expressions were roaming in my dream, the most prominent facial expression was smiley but sooner their appearance became lesser and lesser and a different type of facial expression was in the canvas of my dream. That faces just looked like stone face and creating fear in mind and heart.

“Oh…! I was sweated in the dream, even though that was freezing winter night. I awakened before my dream turned into a nightmare.  What a horrible facial expressions on their faces…! Anger, Hatred, greed types of intense expressions was present on those faces and they were undoubtedly in a serious condition.

I don’t know people realize or not that there are some people are like “Jinki Condition Serious Hai”.Such people are unaffected by any type of circumstances. Neither of winter or summer or rainy or spring season can change their facial expression. So, what do you say… about jinki condition serious hai...? Whenever you encounter such people and you look at their faces; what is your first reaction …? They seem you like, how unhappy person he or she is …! When would he or she be smile last time?

We always meet Jinki Condition Serious Hai type people, if somebody says ‘no’; he is a liar. It is a very dangerous type of diseases, if it catches somebody; it never ever leaves such person.

Anyways these thoughts were roaming in my mind. And in the middle of night, I was aging trying to catch my sleep. Sooner; I was diving into the ocean of dream. I was confronting with the same dream. A very familiar condition serious type face was repeatedly appearing and disappearing in my dream. 

Yes…Yes…I recognized that face. And he seriously belongs to “Jnki Condition Serious Hai” facility. And now I moved down through the memory lane, where I am going to revive my childhood days. I was recalling that familiar face – very serious with prominent lines of anger on the face. 

“Oh …! I got it, that face was of Pandey sir. And that remembrance revived the sweet memories of my childhood again. Pandey sir was my class teacher in 5th standard. He was very expressive personality in the context of Jindki Condition Serious Hai. I fail to remember any such moment in which I saw any change in his face. His face was like a stone face with stone heart .He looked as an angry man and the lines that developed on his face due to intense anger was so prominent that had been a part of his personality. He could be recognized very easily at a distance.

Confronting such people is a hard task and my whole class including me experienced it daily. Nobody knew who would be the victim of his anger? He had a long thin stick in hand to punish the student. Mostly student s was punished for not doing the homework and that practice was applied on 10-15 students daily. When the stick was waved in the class, the sound of that stick echoed into the heart of every student and it is still dwelling in my heart and mind too. 

One day the whole class decided to make him smile. But the biggest question was …How…? So we made a plan. The whole class decided not to do the homework for next day. And you can’t imagine… what happened next day. The whole class stood on the bench and was waiting for the punishment. When Pandey sir entered into the class and saw the scene, a big question mark of surprise on his face

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“Wow...! That was a big surprise for us. The expression of stone face was changed. We opened our hand in front of him for the punishment. He had a great surprise on his face and the question mark for our act. He asked us for the home work and we nodded our head in no. He was speechless for some moment and then he laughed so vigorously that shook the whole class. And what happened…then is now a History.

One question is still to discover. Why are some people just like” Jinki Condition Serious Hai”…?? I find only one reason; they have a negative attitude towards life. What is the reason for this…? I think it lies in their upbringing and the circumstances of childhood. The negative attitude towards life compels a person turns into jinki condition serious hai like people.

One question is for everyone. How do you feel … when you encounter such person…? How can you tolerate or bear such person … if you have to spend 6-8 hours with such person.

  

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Self Improvment- Mind and heart

Listen to the mind and the heart but When?

Mind and Heart in boxing ring

Life passes through so a many phases and sometime it comes across to a situation where we do not decide – what to do? Our heart says some thing and we decide something else. But that state of dilemma is not that much expensive, that we can’t bear with the burden of our decision. Our mind accepts but the heart rejects. Then at this stage – what should we do? That is very important, so at the time it is better to take a wise and balanced decision. Whatever we do in our life, it is our self decision, and so whether it is right or wrong, we have to face the consequences

To do or not to do Situation-

That is the To Do or Not to Do situation. We are in-between the mind and heart.This In-between circumstances compel a person to reach to some conclusion and take some decision. If he or she doesn’t take any decision, he will be surrounded by stress and anxiety. Circumstances compel him or her to that extend that he or she can't even believe in himself  or herself and he requires other’s opinion or advice. Seeking of opinion of others is not wrong. But other don't understand the circumstances well enough through which we are passing . Small things are even important. This thing can be understood, who has faced the same situation.

It is said that woman thinks from heart and man through mind. So women are emotionally stronger than man..., so having delicate heart; sentiments dominate her. And due to it, if she faces any trouble; she doesn’t perplex.

The voice of heart and mind:-

Mind Over Heart OR Heart Over Mind

 Whenever we heard the voice of our heart, the decision is taken in a hurry. Because emotions neither ready to listen to anyone’s voice and doesn’t analyze the situation and it's outcoming results. But the mind whenever thinks, it analyses both the good and the bad aspects, and then person takes the right step into right direction.

Some subjects are related to mind and some are to the heart. Suppose you think that life partner is cheating you, so you have to decide whether to continue this relation or not? In this tug of war of both mind and heart act together. Actually this is a cycle, where heart says, “ May be he relaise his mistake and will correct it,so there is no need to think about separation”. But the mind doesn’t agree and think – how can I believe in such life  a partner, who is deceiving me. Who knows...! he can't cheat again? When you think about that very important part of your life that is affecting you to a great extend,listen to the voice of your mind.

 It often happens; we listen to the voice of our heart due to the presence of others and become stressful. So better if we draw some limit, where we put emphasis on the emotional side and where we give wait to the decisive side. If there is no any negative effect of it, go with your heart. But if the circumstances are not under your control, it is wise to take decision through mind.

Your opinion towards life:-

In the tug war of mind and soul: it depends upon the ability of the endurance of a person and the level of his thinking. In which form he asses the life. Sometime it happens that a thing that is ignored at a level, is unbearable at different stages. At this stage, use the brain and think- Why is it happening to me? Previously wasn’t it thought carefully?

Listen to the heart:-

Whatever your heart suggests you, it might be right up to some extent. When the question arises about your future and your family is imposing their decision on you. Then go with your heart because at this time you are right. In early stages your family won’t go with your decision but one day they will realize that you were right.

Heart always says right. That is not fully correct. At this stage if somebody takes any decision emotionally, he or she would be wrong and the consequences will be born by him only. So be careful when you are standing at the crossroad of your life and you are not in a position to take right decision. At that time follow your mind because your mind suggests you right path.

            Some people are of the nature that they always take decision through heart and get failure. But they do not regret about it. These type of people love to live in present.

The mutual pulling of mind and heart always goes on, because this is the axis of human life. It is better to know, when to use mind and when to use heart. Keep a proper balance. It would be better if other do not interfere in your life because nobody understands your situation better than you.

                                                                             Veena Sethi.

Anger....an emotion to discover

Anger: The Pessimistic Emotion of Human Nature

Man holds many different types of emotions- love, affection, faith joy, courage. These are optimistic type of emotions and sorrow, pain, hatred, anger, jealousy are some of the pessimistic emotions.

Irrupted Anger

  Anger is the most intense and violent type of pessimistic emotion or excitement. It dominates the human mind. Anger is moved by the heart, mind cannot control it. Anger has room in the heart as profound slept seed and it bursts up when circumstances and reasons favors for its irruption.

Anger is Circumstantial: - When does anger irrupt? Why does it erupt? It is undecided and uncertain. But whenever anger is generated circumstances are responsible for it. Most of the time society and family are responsible for it. When a person is rebuked or punished without any reason or on false ground, and it happens repeatedly, that leads to disappointment and pessimism. Such situations are unbearable for the victim. Anger arises inside him, suddenly he becomes violent and on the contrary he opposes the situation violently and vigorously.

Intensity of Anger: - Anger is an intense feeling and it depends upon the intensity of the circumstances. It starts with the use of abusive words, comments, symbolic words and body gesture that hurts the emotions of any person. As per reaction anger suddenly irrupts and makes the person intolerant, peevish and uneasy. He looses self control; he can sustain anger up to some limit. In simple word anger is reaction of such actions.
Once anger starts, after sometime temperament of that person is so high that he becomes so violent and can commit some crime and that is the end of his anger. At this stage mind subsides the anger. When person returns to his normal state, he regrets to his act.
Another type of circumstances that creates anger is business rivalry that is very frequent in present day's world.

Intense Anger

Impatient person is very easily being the victim of anger. This type of person has no patience to wait for sometime. He wants action at once as he demands for something. Otherwise he looses his temper and starts taking unrestrainedly and makes the atmosphere full of tension. He reproaches for a short period. Better if nobody notices him, he becomes normal soon.
Anger has neither any shape nor any type. It depends upon human nature. People with different nature hold anger with different intensity and sharpness: -

• Some people who are of 'come and go' type. Anger arises in him and suddenly disappears. It is just like a line that is drawn on the water by the wooden stick that disappears as it is formed on the water surface.
• If intensity is slight high, anger stays for sometimes just like a line on sand that disappears by wind after sometime.

• Some person are of very cruel type and they adopt anger of a aggressive intensity, their anger is just like the line that is drawn on hard earth and neither can be wiped out by the water or can be effaced by air current. The line is erased with efforts, so as the anger.

Anger arises effortlessly on those who retains or adopts pessimistic emotions like jealously hatred etc. For them the world seems to be the great enemy for them. They can be violent and even commit crime for worthless things.

Constructive And Destructive Anger: - the cumulative anger is of destructive type. It seems in racial, social and caste conflict. This type of anger has changes the course of History so a many times.

Anger can be constructive or destructive; it depends upon the emotional setback that originates due to the injustice. On first hand any person tries to ignore the circumstances that develop due to injustice but if it is done repeatedly and he just bears all these up to the limit of patience. And he opposes it and fight for that injustice. This is constructive anger. The example is Mahatma Gandhi, who fought against the racism in the South Africa when he was thrown away from the first class compartment of the train by a White Ticket Collector, at that time the Blacks were not allowed to travel in the first class of the train in the South Africa.

Anger As a power:-

• Anger shouldn't be up to that extend that it controls the mind and the heart.
• It is natural but the point is how a person reacts over it.
• If the person can control the anger, he will be the winner other wise the looser.
• If anger irrupts due to the injustice, it can be the inspirational force that motivates a person. But if it should be remain when the anger disappears, constructive results can't be achieved. For this better if the victim always remembers the injustice to motivate him.
• Angry person can easily be misguided and he is used as a tool.
• Aggression and passion for the aim are must to achieve the success. Sometimes it develops through anger in some people so anger becomes inspirational to him.
• Anger has a power of creation that affects the humanity by and large, but this state of anger develops slowly like the germinating seed. After its appearance its stays and converts into creation. That is in the form of reforms in the society. History is the evidence of such anger.

• Anger that develops due to the weakness or lacking of something in the life can be constructive or destructive, depends upon the nature of a person.

Means to Control The Anger:-
Everybody knows anger irrupts like a volcano and is uncontrollable but there are ways to control anger.

Control of Anger

• First of all try to take yourself away from the atmosphere that creates the anger.
• Whenever anger explodes, start counting with effort.
• Try to walk fast or start taking deep breathes. Inhales deeply and exhales gently and slowly that helps to control the anger
• Whenever anger irrupts don't say anything and keep silence that gives you sometime to think about the situation.
• When the anger settles down, think about the situation and try to find the reason for the anger. We can't control the situation but can control ourselves.
• Whenever anger appears it should be mold into another direction. Better if a person consume his anger in some other work, it is difficult to do in normal conditions. The results will be better.

• If a person knows the reason of the anger, next time when he will come across the same situation, better if he stops doing work because angry person is more abusive and arrogant.

The best way is to control anger is live a disciplined life and develop the habit of self control. It would be fine enough if you don't welcome anger as your difficulty. Make anger your friend not your enemy.

                                                                 Veena Sethi.

 

My first poem-I alone.

                                                      

I alone

ignorant of the way:

On the path of life,

with a caravan of dream

Move on.

The storm rising on the way;

scattered the dreams away.

Again

with a will together;

them together.

I alone

Trade on the solitary land;

Sometimes,

Along the murmuring stream of passion;

Sometimes,

preaching the sorrowing woods

On the way

offering all the dreams.

I alone

with the ray of hope:

On the dark path;

En candle   the lamps of Hope

Fill all the hearts with mirth;

move on.

And  

determined to make my own

the agony of others.

I alone

Carrying sweet smell of livings;

make the path sweet scented'

Having goal world

to all fragrance scatter on.

Desirous of sweeping away

the woos of Earth.

I alone 

Ignorant of destination;

On my way 

Move on

I alone.

I alone.

( This is my first poem - I wrote it when I was in 12th -I don't my this effort is in right path or I should stop writing poem in English.I need your comment to know about my writings.Waiting for your reaction.Veena Sethi.)